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Wedding culture can make so many women feel like they’re producing a performance instead of preparing for a marriage. Between family expectations, social media pressure, people-pleasing, decision fatigue, and endless opinions, it’s easy for women to lose confidence in themselves during a season that’s supposed to feel meaningful. This conversation with Priya Parker completely reframed the way I think about weddings, relationships, community, and gathering. Priya is the author of The Art of Gathering and one of the most thoughtful voices on human connection, conflict resolution, and meaningful community. Together, we explore how women can approach wedding planning with more intention, self worth, confidence, and authenticity — instead of getting swept away by perfectionism or tradition for tradition’s sake. We talk about the emotional side of weddings that nobody really prepares women for: navigating boundaries with family, staying grounded in your values, managing conflict, and creating a celebration that actually reflects who you are as a couple. This episode isn’t just about weddings. It’s about identity, womanhood, mental health, relationships, and staying connected to yourself during major life transitions. Inside this conversation: the question every couple should ask before planning a wedding why meaningful gatherings matter so much for women and community navigating family expectations and difficult conversations creating rituals and traditions that feel authentic instead of performative the difference between planning a wedding versus building an intentional marriage how women can set boundaries and avoid losing themselves during wedding planning how Mary and her husband approached their wedding in a more feminist way why connection, community, and relationships are essential for mental health and self worth Whether you’re engaged, married, single, healing from people-pleasing, or simply craving deeper connection in your life, this conversation offers such a grounding perspective on what it means to gather with intention. Follow Priya on Instagram: @priyaparker Get Priya’s book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters Get Priya’s course The Art of Gathering Digital Course — Wedding Edition Share this episode with the women in your life! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @priyaparker Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

On this episode of Vibe Check, Sam Sanders and acclaimed author Priya Parker talk all about her book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters . Plus, Priya answers some questions from listeners. ------------------------------------------------------ www.priyaparker.com/vibecheck ------------------------------------------------------ You can find everything Vibe Check related at our official website, www.vibecheckpod.com We want to hear from you! Email us at vibecheck@stitcher.com , and keep in touch with us on Instagram @vibecheck_pod . Get your Vibe Check merch at www.podswag.com/vibecheck . Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes of Vibe Check ad-free. Start a free trial now on Apple Podcasts or by visiting siriusxm.com/podcastsplus . Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We are re-airing some of our favorite episodes during our summer break like this one with expert facilitator, Priya Parker. After the pandemic took apart so many of our favorite ways of hanging out, we might be out of practice. Or too tired or overwhelmed. Priya encourages us all to practice being together for different reasons. And they don’t have to be nearly as fancy or predictable as we might think… In this episode, Kate and Priya discuss: How do we show up for other people and ourselves in creative ways How to know when a change might be needed in a regular gathering Risk and the awkwardness of needing people *** Looking for the transcript or show notes? Click here . Find Kate on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter . Subscribe to receive blessings in your inbox every week. No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. Order your copy, today. Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection . Available wherever books are sold. We are going to practice the season of Advent together. Download a free Advent guide, here . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Priya Parker is here to discuss what Glennon called “the most important thing in the world” – connection – and how to make our time with other people have more of it. She teaches us: How – whether it’s a wedding or a retirement party – you can create new gathering rituals that forge truer, deeper relationships; Why the outcome of every gathering is decided before anyone steps in the room; and Why so many of us hate parties – and what to do about it. For the The Art of Gathering online course giveaway go to priyaparker.com/hardthings About Priya: Priya Parker is a conflict facilitator, strategic advisor, international speaker, and acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters and host of the podcast TOGETHER APART. She is the creator and host of The Art of Gathering digital course, about how to make meaning with and for our people. She lives in Brooklyn, New York with her husband and two children. TW: @priyaparker IG: @priyaparker

Self-love is relational. We NEED people in our lives and gathering is how we build and nurture community. Today Priya Parker is on the show to teach us about the art of gathering, specifically as it pertains to weddings. You will learn... why weddings are important for a couple and their families how Mary & Husband approached their wedding in a conscientious and feminist way the #1 thing to consider BEFORE planning a wedding (i.e. MUCH-NEEDED advice for engaged couples) how to set boundaries with friends and family as you’re planning a wedding and resolve any conflict that may come up Remember: Weddings are symbolic, ritualistic, and a rite of passage for everyone involved. If done in an artful way, weddings can be a beautiful way to begin a marriage… tune in to learn how. Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters, and executive producer and host of the New York Times podcast, Together Apart. Trained in the field of conflict resolution, Parker has spent 20 years guiding leaders and groups through complicated conversations about community, identity, and vision at moments of transition. She lives in Brooklyn, NY, with her husband and two children. Follow Priya on Instagram: @priyaparker Learn more about Priya’s Wedding Course here: https://course.priyaparker.com/aog-wedding-planning Get Priya’s book, The Art of Gathering: https://www.priyaparker.com/book-art-of-gathering If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @priyaparker Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. #157: Wedding Reflections w/ My HUSBAND: https://spotify.link/ivI8sz5NYAb 10 Wedding Planning Questions for the Artful Gathering Couple: https://www.priyaparker.com/wedding-planning-guide Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Priya Parker shares her practical tips for becoming a better host and guest, finding the right kind of group to gather with, and how to instantly bring energy back into not-so-fun gatherings. why gatherings are SO important, even if you’re not a party person the one thing you need to have any kind of successful gathering why identifying the PURPOSE of your gatherings is so important and exactly how to do it how to make the parties you throw way more memorable the number one thing you need to do before an event begins to make it successful how to instantly make a lame-feeling party way more fun (as a host OR a guest) what to STOP spending time on when planning parties (no one cares!) and what to invest more time in genius tips to make funerals, weddings, zoom meetings, dinner parties, and group trips more meaningful and enjoyable and so much more! For more from Priya, head to her website www.priyaparker.com , where you can find her course, follow her on Instagram @priyaparker , and grab her book The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . To join the Healthier Together Podcast Club Facebook group, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthiertogetherpodcast . This episode is sponsored by: LMNT: go to DrinkLMNT.com/Liz a to get a free LMNT sample pack with any order. AG1: visit AG1.com/healthiertogether and get your FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs today. Healthier Together cover art by Zack. Healthier Together music by Alex Ruimy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we explore the art of gathering and its importance in our lives with Priya Parker, facilitator, strategic advisor, and author of "The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters". Priya shares her belief that gathering is a creative act and how the pandemic has impacted the way we gather. We dive into the importance of intention in creating meaningful gatherings and how to be a good guest. Plus, we explore ways to up the value and meaning of gatherings. Whether you're a host or a guest, this episode is sure to inspire you to think about the power of gathering and how you can make your next gathering more intentional and meaningful. Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, and author of "The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters". With 20 years of experience guiding leaders and groups through complicated conversations, Parker brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. She is trained in conflict resolution and lives in Brooklyn with her family. If you're looking to up your gathering game, this episode is for you. Priya shares insights on how to create meaningful gatherings that are both intentional and impactful. We explore the impact of the pandemic on gathering and how we can adapt to this new reality. Priya emphasizes the importance of being a good guest and how to show up fully in a gathering. Plus, we dive into the future of gathering and how we can make our gatherings more meaningful and impactful. Some highlights we explore: The impact of the pandemic on gathering: "When you are not together in the same building, how you actually run your virtual meetings is all you have to shape culture. What you do is what people think this place is." The power of intention in creating meaningful gatherings: "The key to creating a meaningful gathering is to have a clear intention." She explains how setting an intention can help to create a shared sense of purpose and create a more meaningful experience for everyone involved." How to be a good guest. Priya discusses the importance of being a good guest and how to show up fully in a gathering. She emphasizes the importance of being present, showing gratitude, and participating fully in the experience. The art of creating: Priya emphasizes the importance of creating intentional and meaningful gatherings to create a sense of togetherness and community. The future of gathering: The way we gather is changing, and we discuss the future of gathering and how we can adapt to this new reality. She emphasizes the importance of creating psychological togetherness and mastering the skill of creating collective meaning for people. Enjoy!

This podcast episode is a companion to “ Issue #58: No More Bad Dinner Parties .” Coming together as a community has the potential to be the most important thing we do—gatherings are supposed to make us feel something, but the uninspiring dinner party I attended is far from an exceptional anecdote. It’s why Priya Parker starts off her book The Art of Gathering with the observation, “ The way we gather matters. And yet most of us spend very little time thinking about the actual ways in which we gather. ” Last week, I spoke to Priya about how to do just that. We chatted about utilizing “generous authority,” how creating a guest list can be a cleansing ritual, and the importance of a purpose and “moment of focus.” I love what she shared, near the end, when I asked her about hosting my first dinner party in my studio apartment . You can listen to our full conversation here: Two quick episode notes: * The article Priya quotes in her book is “ Chill is a Garbage Virtue ” by Alana Massey. * The memory expert Priya references is Ed Cooke . Thanks for listening! You can access the original issue here . Get full access to morning person at www.morningpersonnewsletter.com/subscribe

This week, we’re getting ready for Thanksgiving with Star of A Chef’s Life, Vivian Howard, and the expert on gatherings, Priya Parker.

Welcome to the last episode of Series 3! I really hope you have enjoyed the series and it’s given you some pause for thoughts. Don’t forget to rate and review the show on iTunes to help other people find me. Priya Parker is a conflict resolution strategist, based in the States and the author of a 2018 book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters. I’ve wanted to speak to her since I read her book in 2019 , because so many of us - myself included! - struggle to maintain our social lives. What to say yes to, what to say no to, what to seek out and what to avoid. Priya talks about gatherings big and small in a way that she calls “small p political” - because it is deeply political, she says, to decide what we celebrate, elevate and value through who, why and when we come together. I think Priya offers a really unique perspective on what gathering actually means. I hope you enjoy it - and thanks for joining me, for series 3! How should we meet? And who decides? by Priya Parker for The New York Times The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker When do we actually need to meet in person? By Rae Ringel for The Harvard Business Review Hosted & Exec Produced by Pandora Sykes Production by Joel Grove

In this episode, Damon sits down with Priya Parker, master facilitator, and author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters. Priya provides listeners with a masterclass in the art of gathering. Here are some of the questions you might have about your work meetings: Have you wondered if your meetings were serving the right purpose? Have you questioned whether the right people are in the room? Do you worry that the way you gather at work is impacting someone’s ability to feel like they belong? Don’t worry, these questions are being asked at every level of organizations around the world right now. Priya will lay the foundation for how to gather, why to gather and what we can do to make our gatherings more meaningful. Damon and Priya also analyze some famous examples of workplace culture in the form of Ted Lasso and Succession to learn what they can teach us about gathering. By the end of this episode, you’ll also learn the difference between a conversation and a gathering and why you need to find the deepest need of your gatherings to truly create a meaningful experience. To hear from more Culture First Leaders like Priya Parker make sure that you register to join us at Culture First . Culture First is a series of free virtual experiences exploring how culture, science, and innovation can guide organizations, leaders, and teams through the challenges and towards the opportunities of reworking work for everyone. Get your free ticket here . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Priya Parker has become the voice of what it means to gather in this world we inhabit now. She is helping remake the “how” of coming together — and more importantly, the “why.” Long before the pandemic, she points out, we had fallen into rote forms for staff meetings, birthday parties, conferences, shared meals. Virtual or physical, this time of regathering offers a threshold we can decide to cross with imagination, purpose, and joy. This is a conversation with so much to walk away from and put immediately into practice. Priya Parker is a conflict resolution strategist and author of the acclaimed book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . She is a founding member of the Sustained Dialogue Campus Network, a member of the World Economic Forum Global Agenda Council on New Models of Leadership, and a Senior Expert at Mobius Executive Leadership. Learn more about her work, her online Gathering Makeover series, and her email newsletter at priyaparker.com . This interview is edited and produced with music and other features in the On Being episode "Priya Parker — Remaking Gathering: Entering the Mess, Crossing the Thresholds." Find the transcript for that show at onbeing.org. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today we continue this week's series with Priya Parker, a conflict resolution expert who works to help people connect in more meaningful ways through being intentional in their gatherings. Today she explains how creating a common language around tension and conflict provides a fertile ground for growth and connection. By asking hard questions from a place of love and respect, we can actually move from fear and avoidance to understanding and empowerment—and transform the way we interact. Watch the full clip here . For more info, go to www.priyaparker.com , or order her book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . I'd love to know what you think, so join in on the conversation! Subscribe, leave a review, or follow PG-ish on Instagram ( @pgishparenting ), or you can always find me at www.pgishparenting.com .

Every day you're creating a narrative in your home based on your conversations, your structure system, and your style of family life. Wouldn't it be great to use that narrative to provide a greater purpose and mission statement for your family? Priya Parker, an author, facilitator, and strategic advisor, believes that how we gather is how we live—so we need to be intentional about how and why we connect with those around us. Watch the full clip here . For more info, go to www.priyaparker.com , or order her book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . I'd love to know what you think, so join in on the conversation! Subscribe, leave a review, or follow PG-ish on Instagram ( @pgishparenting ), or you can always find me at www.pgishparenting.com .

Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, the acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters, and one of Prentis' newest friends. Listen as these two reflect on where we've been in the past year, what we have the opportunity to bring forward, and the ever-shifting dynamics of power when two or more people meet. Find the show notes + transcript on our website: www.findingourwaypodcast.com Come practice with us at The Embodiment Institute: www.theembodimentinstitute.org Follow us on Instagram @findingourwaypodcast Stay up to date on Prentis' work by joining our newsletter The Finding Our Way Team includes: Prentis Hemphill - Host and Producer Eddie Hemphill - Co-Producer + Editor devon de Leña - Co-Producer + Visual Design Support the show The Becoming the People Podcast Team: Producers: Prentis Hemphill & devon de Leña Sound Engineer and Editing: Michael Maine Original Music: Mayyadda

This episode is the second of a two-part series with Priya Parker, master facilitator, strategic adviser, and the author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . We hold a weekly meeting in our organization that doesn’t seem to be serving everyone in a consistent way, so Priya helps me figure out what’s going on and why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me for Part 1 of a two-part series with Priya Parker on gathering together again. Priya is a master facilitator, a strategic adviser, and the author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . We talk about the big and small challenges we’ll see when we return to workspaces, the need we’ll have to use our creativity and ingenuity to figure out how to be together, and the opportunity we’ll get to ask how we can be together better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Aluna Francis of AlunaGeorge and trained facilitator, Priya Parker. In this episode we discuss: - the science of how we gather - “healthy heat” in conflicts - the importance of having a disputable purpose when we gather - the pitfalls of vulnerability focused culture - how to sell tickets AIRS 11/25/20

Priya Parker is a master facilitator, strategic adviser, and the author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . We dig into what it means to come together, why connection requires intention, and the often-invisible structures inside our most meaningful gatherings. Priya even helps me deconstruct my wedding and why, decades later, people still tell me how different and fun it was! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week’s Ask the Expert interview Sarah is in conversation with Priya Parker - a trained conflict facilitator and author of The Art of Gathering (how we meet and why it matters). Together they discuss connection, good controversy and how we can all be more creative in how we get together. Priya shares ideas on how we can make our meetings more meaningful and how the pandemic has impacted our sense of connection with each other. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The way we come together has been severely disrupted. How can we seize this opportunity to make gatherings more relevant and meaningful? Priya Parker believes that “Gatherings aren't just events, they are moments that remind us of who we are, who we have been, and who we might become.” In this conversation, we discuss how we can make gatherings even more meaningful, despite so many of us being apart during the pandemic. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Author Priya Parker shares tools for creating meaningful connections with friends, family and coworkers during the coronavirus pandemic -- and shows how we can take advantage of gatherings that are unique to this moment of social distancing. “We don’t necessarily need to gather more,” she says. “We need to gather better.” This virtual conversation is part of the TED Connects series, hosted by Chris and current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers. It was recorded on March 27, 2020. To learn more, visit go.ted.com/tedconnects Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering, shares how discussing her childhood dreams with her mother equipped her with the tools to deeply understand what it is that she desired. Part two of The Lonely Hour's mini-series, Inner Lives. Original illustration by Payton Cosell Turner.

Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering, shares how discussing her childhood dreams with her mother equipped her with the tools to deeply understand what it is that she desired. Part two of The Lonely Hour's mini-series, Inner Lives.

I recently attended TED2019 in Vancouver and recorded a bunch of interviews with some very inspiring speakers and attendees while I was over there. My first interview in this series is with Priya Parker. Priya Parker teaches people to gather better at home, work, school and in our communities. She is the bestselling author of The Art of Gathering and is also a strategic facilitator with a background in conflict-resolution. Her company Thrive Labs has worked with organisations as varied as MoMA, the World Economic Forum and the International Finance Corporation on strategy, vision and purpose. In this interview, we cover: Priya’s advice for how to have great sales meetings How Priya approaches her own client meetings The role language plays in how Priya gets to know her clients’ motivations Priya’s favourite questions to ask at gatherings How to get better at "holding the silence" in group work Priya’s process for creating her TED talk How Priya manages her nerves before high stakes events How Priya would improve the TED conference experience. You can learn more about Priya at priyaparker.com and sign up to her newsletter. Get your hands on a copy of Priya’s bestselling book The Art of Gathering . Visit amanthaimber.com/podcast for full show notes from all episodes. Get in touch at amantha@inventium.com.au If you are looking for more tips to improve the way you work, I write a short monthly newsletter that contains three cool things that I have discovered that help me work better, which range from interesting research findings through to gadgets I am loving. You can sign up for that at http://howiwork.co See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Learn from my guest Priya Parker how to create super effective meetings, resolve tough conflicts, and throw killer dinner parties.

This week, Jeff recorded LIVE at the EY Innovation Realized Summit in Boston. In this episode, Jeff sits with the event's keynote speaker: Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering and Founder of Thrive Labs. Parker shares insights in her book on the importance of in-person connections and how meeting with purpose can lead to disruptive and inspiring realizations. Join us for a fresh perspective on what it means to get together and how an infusion of humanity can lead to better innovation. Have a question for Jeff? Find him on Twitter @JeffreySaviano Follow @PriyaParker on Twitter for her latest insights and learn about her book and more: https://www.priyaparker.com/ Want to be a guest on the podcast? Reach out to @JenHemmerdinger on Twitter

Host Travis King of the Community Builder Podcast talks with Priya Parker about the difference between a gathering and a community, and the importance of vulnerability. Episode Highlights: Priya was born in Zimbabwe to scientist parents and her family moved every 6 months. Being biracial with an Indian mother and white father, Priya sees her entire life as creating “temporary alternative worlds” to belong to at any given time as she had to float between communities. We assume that in community building you lose the “I” to the “we,” but in reality the strongest groups maintain both the I and the we. Priya sees a major key and a minor key in gatherings, with the major key being the majority position, and the minor key being dissenting voices and paradoxical identities and difficult conversations. Gatherings and community are distinct things, with communities being built at gatherings. Don’t pursue vulnerability for vulnerability’s sake, it should still be true to the purpose of your gathering and community. Priya is trained in a practice called sustained dialogue, which is a group practice that says you can transform a conflict by transforming the relationships involved in the conflict. A failure at training a university in this practice taught her that an exercise that worked in one context won’t necessarily work in another, and that you should always know your audience. Her husband wrote a book that examines how the idea of changing the world has been co-opted by philanthropy so that no big structural change actually happens at a societal level. 3 Key Points: Every strong community needs both an “I” and a “we.” It’s important to find and sit in the heat of hard conversations or other challenges within a gathering or community. Know the context of the situation you’re entering into and know your audience. Tweetable Quotes: “Communities become interesting when they become disputable.” –Priya Parker “Whenever you have an opportunity where people are willing to take risks for you because they love you, it’s a beautiful thing.” –Priya Parker Resources Mentioned: Priya Parker: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/priyaparker/) http://www.thrivelabs.co/ (http://www.thrivelabs.co/) Travis King: Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/travisking1) communitybuildershow.com (http://communitybuildershow.com) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Priya Parker: The Art of Gathering Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, and founder of Thrive Labs , at which she helps activists, elected officials, corporate executives, educators, and philanthropists create transformative gatherings. She is the author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters *. Key Points What creates meaning in a gathering is conversation, not the functional details of the event. We’re often not totally clear on the purpose of our gatherings. We don’t need to gather more often, but we need to do a better job when we do gather. Resources Mentioned The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters * by Priya Parker The Modern Manager podcast Book Notes Download my highlights from The Art of Gathering in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Use Power for Good and Not Evil, with Dacher Keltner (episode 254) Have Conversations That Matter, with Celeste Headlee (episode 344) How to Plan Meetings That Get Results, with Mamie Kanfer Stewart (episode 358) The Path of Humble Leadership, with Edgar Schein (episode 363) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

No one loves meetings, but we all attend them—probably a lot of them! So why are so many meetings so bad, and how can we make them better...or stop having them in the first place? On today’s show, we talk to author and facilitator Priya Parker about how to make gatherings of all kinds more meaningful, memorable, and inclusive. Priya is a professionally trained in conflict resolution, and has worked on race relations at college campuses and on peace processes globally. She’s the founder of Thrive Labs and the author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters . And she’s got a ton to say about bringing people together with purpose. > When I hear “we want everyone to be excellent to each other,” it makes me angry. And the reason it makes me angry is because it’s a power-blind way of seeing. It assumes that people when they walk in, that there aren’t any power dynamics, that there isn’t any hierarchy. That everyone will behave in the way that in your mind you think everybody behaves. And it assumes that you are creating a utopia without actually doing anything to create that utopia. > — Priya Parker , author, The Art of Gathering Priya tells us all about: How we’ve reduced meetings to the “things”—like food, wine, and table settings—and let our people wither. “This reflects an assumption that we’ve had for many decades, which is if you get the things right in the gathering, everything else will take care of itself. And I can tell you as a group facilitator, that is not true. Why even events like sex parties have a ton of structure. “It allows people to actually organize and be around that purpose in a way that they don’t have to feel like they’re having to take care of themselves and each other.” Why “being chill” isn’t going to make your event relaxed. “Being chill is actually a selfish act. Because you’re doing it because of how you want people to see you.” Links: The Art of Gathering Thrive Labs Twitter Instagram Also in this episode, Katel and Sara talk about the joys and challenges of running meetings, the power and vulnerability of owning your expertise, and so much more. Plus: we chat with Graywolf Press about new books to read this spring, and celebrate getting involved in grassroots organizations.